- Genesis 24:5-9 (NKJV)
- 5 And the servant said to him, “Perhaps the woman will not be willing to follow me to this land. Must I take your son back to the land from which you came?”
- 6 But Abraham said to him, “Beware that you do not take my son back there. 7 The Lord God of heaven, who took me from my father’s house and from the land of my family, and who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, ‘To your descendants I give this land,’ He will send His angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there. 8 And if the woman is not willing to follow you, then you will be released from this oath; only do not take my son back there.” 9 So the servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and swore to him concerning this matter.
There’s no doubt about it—we all have needs, the problem is we don’t always have good enough standards to match our needs.
Marriage is a good example.
By God’s design marriage addresses a number of needs that men and women have. However, we all know people who, because of low standards, jumped out of the proverbial frying pan into the fire when they got married.
Abraham understood this. As the custom of his day was, when it came time for him (as the father) to obtain a wife for his son he had specific standards that had to be met. In communicating these standards to his representative he was firm—if these standards can’t be met, you are released from your obligation to me (see verses above).
Years ago there was a song that came out that touted the philosophy: “Any loving is good loving.”
Almost thirty-seven years of working up-close with people as a pastor has demonstrated over and over the fallacy of that faulty thinking.
We all have needs—that’s a part of being human. But whether those needs are for intimacy and relationship or something as basic as food and clothing, when we compromise on our standards for meeting those needs we set ourselves up for disaster. Often it is better to live with unmet needs than to settle for inferior solutions to those needs.
- The ONE THING: When it comes to meeting the needs in your life—set high standards and stick with them.