My wife is an amazing woman.
Last year, when her birthday came around, I asked her where she’d like me to take her for her birthday dinner and, much to my surprise, she said, “Dairy Queen.” I would have taken her to the finest restaurant available, but Dairy Queen it was.
We had a wonderful time. Sitting side-by-side in a booth, enjoying a burger and fries, followed by a Blizzard; it doesn’t get much better than that.
Now run the clock forward to a few days ago. It was my turn to pick out the place to enjoy a birthday meal. Remembering the happy memory from last year, I choose Dairy Queen too.
Well, turns out the world has changed a lot since last year.
This little thing called Covid-19 stopped us from being able to eat inside. So, we had to take our order home. Seems there was a change of cooks too, for the fries were cold and rubbery (may have come from the same batch Sonja and I ate from last year) and the burger and blizzard were okay, but just okay. The magic was gone.
That leads me to what I want you to think about today:
There is a difference between repetition and repeating something.
Repetition happens all the time; repeating (in the sense I am using it) almost never.
We’ve all done it.
We go to a nice restaurant and enjoy a great meal and two weeks later we go back to enjoy the same meal, but it is just not as good. Why? We were trying to repeat a special one-of-a-kind event, and it just can’t happen. Life moves on. People change, we change, circumstances change, and to try to hold on to the past by trying a repeat is to set ourselves up for disappointment.
There’s only one time to see anything, do anything, or go anywhere for the first time. After that, it’s just a repetition That does not have to be a bad thing, but we must be mindful of not trying to put last year’s memories in today’s memory trunk; there’s just not enough room for today’s memories and joys and last year’s too.
The ONE THING for today: Instead of settling for a stale and disappointing facsimile of yesterday’s happy moments, determine to make new and specials moments today. Or as the philosopher is apt to say, “Carpi diem!”