On being fair

If you insist on being fair you are greatly limiting yourself.

“Fair” people live by the you-scratch-my-back-I’ll-scratch-you-back principle.  In other words, as long as you do your equal share they will do their equal share.  As long as you help them they will help you.

Oh but the moment things stop being fair they balk.  The moment the work meter tips over to them having to carry 51 percent or more of the load resentment begins to build.

“Fair” people are great score keepers.  For example, as long as you wash the dishes as many times as they do they’re OK, but the moment they have to wash the dishes more times than you they cry, “Foul!” and begin to feel resentful.

The problem with being fair is that life is seldom fair.   If you insist on an eye for eye and a tooth for a tooth then soon everyone will be blind and toothless for no one is able to always give an equal share.  We all have lapses, we all have weaknesses, and we all need grace and mercy.

  • The ONE THING for today: Instead of insisting on life being fair take the high road; be a grace-giver, extend mercy, give more than you receive, go the second mile, even wash the feet of your betrayer.  When you do you’ll be in good company—you’ll be walking with Jesus and that will be worth any unfairness that may come your way.

Romans 5:8 (NKJV)

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

One thought on “On being fair

  1. Thank you, Pastor for your inspiration for today. On my way out the door to take the high road. 🙂 Claudia

    Sent from my iPad



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