Getting better without changing

Don’t confuse getting better at who you are with changing what you are.

The truth is, people seldom really change, they just become better (or worse) at being who they are.

My wife is an excellent example.  I have been married to Sonja for over 41-years and I can honestly say that she is still the same person I married 1978.  And that’s a good thing!  I really liked the “woman” (I thought she was a woman; she was only 18 at the time.) I married.

Of course, she has greatly improved as the person she is.  She’s wiser, more knowledgeable, and more effective; but still, she is the same sweet “Sonja” I married.

The point?

First, quit trying to be someone you’re not!  Instead, embrace who you are and become better so that you can leverage your unique talents and giftedness (and quirks) to do something good with your life.

Second, stop trying to fix people and being disappointed when it doesn’t work and begin accepting them for who they are. 

There’s a huge difference between being disappointed in someone and being disappointed that they are not being the person you want them to be.  Enough already with you trying to be the Creator.  Accept people for who they are and help them become the best at who they are.

The ONE THING for today: Don’t make change about trying to become something you’re not; make it about becoming the best at what you already are. 

And this goes for everyone else too (including family!).

The same sweet gal I married in 1978 (the one on the right!)

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