In yesterday’s blog I questioned the wisdom of writing your own vows, however, if you do decide to write your own marriage vows then I offer the following vows as a possible choice or guide.
They come from one of my wife’s (my own personal marriage counselor) most favorite books on marriage: Our Secret Paradise, by Jimmy Evans
Evans suggests the following:
I do solemnly swear to take you as my life-long partner.
To bandage and to medicate you as long as we both shall live.
I will love you for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, and in sickness and more sickness, because you are one sick puppy!
I don’t see you getting well anytime soon, but I am hoping for some modest improvement today.
I realize that the pretty clothes you are wearing right now, on this our wedding day, are rented and will have to be returned.
You will probably never look this good again.
This is why we are taking so many pictures to preserve this rare moment.
I also understand that reality is waiting for me at our hotel room, where tomorrow your powerful morning breath will announce the dawn of our lifelong journey together, and the harsh morning light will reveal the real you.
In spite of all of this, I love you with all of my heart and wholly commit myself to this marriage, until death do us part, so help me God – because I’ll need all the help I can get.