The ONE THING for today

Being alone and being separated are not the same

Recently my mother-in-law had surgery and after she had been discharged from the hospital Sonja spent a couple of days with her to serve as a caregiver.

Life back here in Fort Mill went on pretty much business-as-usual. However, on one of those “business-as-usual” evenings I was reminded of a very important issue. I was making my last entry in my prayer journal (reflecting on the day) and my entry noted that it had been a good day with the exception that I had missed being able to share the day with Sonja.

It was at that moment that I sensed the Holy Spirit prompting me to not miss the vast difference between being separated and being alone.

Through I was missing Sonja because of the distance that separated us, at any given moment I could (and did) pick up the phone and hear her voice on the other end. If need be, I could have gotten in my car and in less than three hours I could have joined her.

In other words, through we were separated by distance we were still together on this planet and had the option of closing the distance between us and being together again.

On the other hand, I was reminded that evening that there were precious parishioners and friends in my life who were more than separated that evening—they were alone.

Their dearly loved companion had preceded them into eternity. Others came to mind that were still looking for their soul mate. These dear ones did not have the option of picking up the phone or grabbing the car keys—they were more than separated from their loved-one; they were alone.

That evening I was reminded of the sobering truth that one day either Sonja or I would also be sitting at home alone. Unless, in the unlikely event we both left this world together, I was reminded that we only have a limited amount of days left together. Too few days to allow little things to separate us; too few days to not treasure every moment we have together.

I was also reminded to not forget the dearly loved family and friends that surround us everyday who are alone. Let’s not patronize them by trying to down play their loss but let’s do walk with them and love them and encourage them.

No one can replace the loved one that is taken, but we can be that someone who imagesshares the journey on the often dark path that leads us all to that land beyond time and space.

The ONE THING for today: Remember the vast difference between being separated and being alone and act accordingly—while you can.

And for those reading this that are alone…

You and I both know that even the best and closest of family and friends can only bring limited comfort.  Ultimately, I must point you to the only One that can truly bring you the comfort and strength you need (see below).  Run and keep running into His arms–He will not leave you nor let you down.


   2 Corinthians 1:3 (NKJV)

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort



One thought on “Being alone and being separated are not the same

  1. Last summer, as I lay unconscious in ICU for 3 days, I experienced the presence of God, as He brought His promises to me. I felt immersed in the darkest of darkness (think of a deep cave. Turn out all light. The result is blackest of blackness, total absence of light) The enemy whispered, telling me I was alone. Alone! I struggled in the blackness, seeking the Truths I knew. Because of my relationship with Jesus, I sought and grasped His promises. I spoke them back to the enemy, rebuking his lies. “I will never leave you or forsake you. I have loved you with an everlasting love (I had no awareness that my life was in danger post-op. I was experiencing that blackness & apparent void) Jesus whispered Truths to me. “I knit you together in your mother’s womb.” ” I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper..” I will be with you always, even unto the ends of the earth.” The warmth of His presence and His assurances settled me, regardless of the circumstances, horrible darkness seeking to envelope me. I was thankful I had hidden His Truths in my heart!

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