The temptation is to go through life problem solving. For example, we start our day mentally or literally by developing our To-do List and then begin checking the tasks on that list off one at a time. If we’re not careful, the day will become about solving the problem of getting through the check list.
That’s why we get frustrated in at-the-pace-of-a-snail traffic, long lines, and interruptions by people we’d normally like to see; they are getting in the way of our To-do list and thus becoming a part of the problem.
My marriage counselor wife tells me the best way to get a man to talk is to ask him a question about a problem—nothing gets him talking like having a problem to solve.
So I guess we men are especially bad about going through life problem solving.
And now that I think about it, we men are indeed prone to do this with relationships. We start out with: How do I solve the problem of getting a girlfriend; then we move on to the problem of getting the right girlfriend and then finally we face that huge problem of how to convince a girl to be our wife.
Men will do the craziest things to solve these problems—thus the myth that men are romantic. They’re not romantic, they are just trying to solve a tough problem. After the “I do’s” have been said then the man promptly moves on to other tough problems—like how to solve the problem with his golf swing and forgets about all that “romantic stuff”…and that’s when the real problems begin.
How’s this for a solution…
Instead of thinking in terms of problem solving, why not think in terms of purpose finding.
I especially bring this up at the end of the year—that time we try to figure out how to drop those extra pounds, exercise more, find more time for family and God, and all those other New Year’s resolution issues.
When why we are doing something is greater than simply solving a problem there is a much greater chance of actually solving the real problems of life.
The ONE THING for today: Focus more on purpose finding than problem solving.
Romans 8:28 (NKJV)
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.