One of the most important things you can do in any endeavor is clearly state what you want before you see it. Otherwise you are going to live in a world of “hmmmmmm not quite right.”
Couples get married with a foggy “I’ll know it when I see it” idea of what a good marriage looks like—they never get there.

People live day after day with a vague “I’ll know it when I see it” idea of what will make them happy and fulfilled—it never happens.
People go shopping with a “I’ll know it when I see it” mindset and spend tons of money on the craziest things (retailers love it!).
Be man or woman enough to state exactly what your expectations are. Have the courage to set benchmarks. Spit it out! Say it! Do your homework.
- “A and B, but not C will make me happy.”
- “I need A and B and will spend no more than X for it.”
The moment you choose to move from the swampy “I’ll know it when I see it” bog and plant your feet on the firm ground of clearly stated intentions and expectations you will begin to gain traction in your life.
In addition, you will set other people free to climb out of your swampy and lazy “I’ll know it when I when I see it” land and gain traction in their life as well.
Now one final warning, the doing your homework part is very important, for once you state clearly what you want you must have the integrity to live up to your word.