- Mark 10:17 (NKJV) Now as He was going out on the road, one came running, knelt before Him, and asked Him, “Good Teacher, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?”
There’s a huge difference between an ideal and an “I do”.
You can go to bed at night and sleep well when your ideals have not been met, but a compromised “I do” troubles you and sleep is hard to come by.
You can live your life pretty much “business as usual” when your ideals are not met, but when you compromise on an “I do” life becomes uncomfortable and difficult.
- Ideally, there should never be a child that goes to bed hungry.
- Ideally, people should stay pure before marriage.
- Ideally, when people get married they should stay married for life.
- Ideally, people should not try to cheat us.
- Ideally, there should not be war and violence.
But hey, these things happen and we just have to deal with it the best we can.
“I do’s”, on the other hand are different.
For example, one “I do” could be truth-telling. If truth-telling is one of your “I do’s” then it would sound like this:
- I do always tell the truth. I don’t have to think about it, weigh the ramifications of telling the truth and then decide—I just do it.
I do’s are always attached to your core values—who you really are. Thus every “I do” also as an “I am” attached to it.
For example, “I do always tell the truth” comes with an “I am truthful” or stated negatively, “I am not a liar.”
What are your “I do’s (values)? Or put another way, who are you—really.
If you don’t know your core values (who you really are at the core of your being) then your feelings and the values of those around you will be the deciding factor that determines your actions.
Is that how you really want to live?