- 1 Timothy 3:1-7 (NKJV) …the husband of one wife…
The Apostle Paul, when writing to Timothy about setting up the organizational structure for the new parish that was under his care, listed “being the husband of one wife” as one of the qualifications for being in leadership.
It seems to me that what Paul is not saying is that an otherwise qualified man who was single could not be a bishop. (After all, Paul himself was single!) Furthermore, I don’t think Paul was setting up a prohibition to a church leader who became a widower ever remarrying or that a man who had been divorced—say, like one of the five husbands of the woman at the well—who got saved (John 4), could not get a fresh start in Christ and become a church leader.
However, it is certain that Paul is teaching that if you are married then that settles it. There’s no more “playing the field”, “keeping your options open”, or working on a back-up plan just in case your current marriage doesn’t pan out.
In other words, there are some decisions that are final and permanent. With that finality comes a single-mindedness of focus and commitment that sets you up for success—there’s no turning back; you’re committed.
That’s my stand on my marriage, on my relationship with my Lord Jesus, and that is my stance toward my 2014 40-day commitments. There are just some things in life that are too important to second guess: no looking back, turning back or going back—it’s a done deal.
What about you? What are your “no looking back, turning back or going back” commitments?
Sometimes, just for the record, it’s good to restate them–it has a way of strengthening your resolve and redrawing the lines of commitment.