- Proverbs 17:17 (NLT) A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
Have they not met your expectation? Probably—then again isn’t that also true about you and other people’s expectations of you?
As long as someone is on trial with you the only real relationship you can have with them is that of being a judge. The key word you will find yourself saying is “because”…
However, the moment you let them out of the courtroom and decide: for good or bad; for better or worse, I care about this person and I’m going to be loyal to them everything changes. The key phrase becomes “in spite of.”
You call that type of relationship—a friendship.
It can be a spouse, parent, child, classmate, workmate, or whoever—but until that relationship becomes a friendship it will never bring the deep satisfaction and benefit you both long for.
Most often, the first and most vital step in starting and maintaining a friendship is you stepping out from behind the judge’s bench and joining with the other person as you both walk out of the courtroom to never go there again.