I know… They’re wrong. But could you just tweak that statement a wee bit and say, “They’re mostly wrong.” The moment you do that, you give yourself permission to listen to them, and who knows, you may discover you have something in common after all. It may only be a small sliver of commonality, … Continue reading
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Two conversations
When speaking with someone, it’s important to remember that there are always at least two conversations going on at the same time. First, there is the topic under discussion… Second, there are the underlying motives, hopes, fears, and agendas from which the person is speaking. Bottom line, conversations are never neutral or limited to the … Continue reading
Why do you feel that way?
An excellent question to ask yourself regularly is, “Why do I feel this way?” There may be no good reason. It could be just the three-day old pizza you ate for breakfast. It could be because you don’t like their haircut (or yours!), or it may be because your favorite team lost a close game … Continue reading
Your feedback is probably not wanted.
People may need feedback; but what they want is attention. Discipline yourself to listen deeply—pay attention! And perhaps then (maybe not), they will be open to your feedback. Either way you come out ahead. No need wasting your time giving feedback when its not wanted and by listening deeply you may learn something… …and at … Continue reading
